Yesterday I was with a friend who has a two year old son (one that is going to marry O, but that’s a whole other blog post). I was telling her how nice his “big boy” room was, and she asked when I’m going to make O’s big girl bedroom with a bed instead of a crib. My answer was “soon,” but in my head I was actually saying, “Maybe when she’s five? Never? Cribs FO LYFE!” I don’t get the point of rushing this, since she’s never tried to escape, and she sleeps so well every night. I don’t want to rock the boat. But my friend encouraged me to do it sooner rather than later and reminded me that O isn’t a baby anymore and needs her independence. She’s wrong. Wrong wrong wrong. O is totally a baby. And we have to tread lightly with her and transition her to kid-dom step by step. Luckily, we have a plan. It goes:
1. Potty train
2. Big girl bed
3. Operation toss pacis
Potty training has been going swimmingly. I didn’t read anything prior to starting it, and I just followed O’s cues. She’s always hated the feeling of poop in her diaper, so the first few times we put her on the potty, that’s what we got. Apparently we’re lucky she started with that, because a lot of toddlers are hesitant to do anything but pee on the potty at first. Anyway, once she got proficient with that, peeing on the potty came pretty naturally. My daughter is extremely motivated by chocolate. So much so, that every time I tell someone she’s potty trained, and she’s within ear shot, she tells them “I get chocolate.” Parenting fail! Please don’t judge me. At home, she now wears Pull Ups. I’m scared to go the full underwear route, because we *have* had accidents. Also, she doesn’t go to the preschool room at daycare until next week, which is where they use the potty, so we’re not 100% there. Until she’s using the potty and not diapers at daycare, there’s no point putting her in underwear. Lastly, I have no idea how to go about night training. Do people wait on that? If anyone has some advice, I’m all ears. In any event, I’m super proud of her for the day training that she essentially did herself.
Our plan for the big girl bed is to wait until I get pregnant (if I get pregnant). We’ll give her ample time to get used to the bed before the baby comes. I think that’s reasonable, but no, we’re not in a rush, and being reminded of her age and independence is not incentive to move her earlier.
My biggest fear is getting rid of the paci. O still sleeps with one and loves to use it around the house. She doesn’t have one at daycare and we don’t let her bring it out anywhere. I recently took her to the dentist, and he told me to get rid of it by 3, but also that he can usually tell which kids use them by looking at their bite, and he couldn’t tell O used one until I told him. So ultimately this will be our last step out of babyhood, and it’ll happen around 3. In the meantime, I limit it as much as I can and I’ve already started planting the “paci fairy comes to take them away and leaves you a big present” seeds so she’s well prepared. O does well with a lot of advanced warning.
So there you have it. Our three-step “she’s not a baby anymore” plan. Feel free to weigh in and tell me all the different ways I’m ruining my child. XO